Taking Control!
If we think about instances when we were most upset or in despair, you will probably find a common factor - control over our life. We either felt like there was little or no controlling force directing our life or that control of our life was directed by someone or something else.
One goal then to having a more happy and successful life is to direct the control of your life inward. You must start to take control of your life in all situations. This philosophy ends up giving you less stress, and more self esteem.
Some people feel that to be successful in life they must give up control in certain circumstances. Consider being a little less "successful" and a lot more in control. The reality is that you will likely find that you will be more in control and more successful!
So, two more ingredients for a prosperous life are:
- Take Control of Your Life
- Make Sure that You are the One in Control
If you were totally unafraid of anyone or anything, what would you do differently? Think about this statement. For example, if you feel that you can't do something that you want to do because you will look stupid, you are influenced by what other people think of you. You are letting a portion of your life be controlled by someone other than yourself.
Pay attention to this in your day-to-day life and you will be surprised with what you notice.
Please also understand that this does not mean that you don't or shouldn't do what people tell you to do. Everyone receives direction from others. But, what you do is to take this instruction in, acknowledge it, assess it, then take it on as your own and perform the task. You will perform better and be given more autonomy, which will give you even more control.
You may be in the position of not completely agreeing with the "team's" or the "boss's" plan of action and the decision has been made to go ahead anyway. In this case, you want to acknowledge internally that you do not completely agree and then perform the duty to the best of your ability. Control what you can control and for the rest control how you react to the situation. This is the best way to handle this situation.
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